Do you have the habit of micromanaging your kid’s activities? Do you hover around your child’s life with the concern about his safety? If you do, you are an overprotective parent.
Every parent wants to keep their child safe but exercising a parenting style with the main focus on kid’s safety is a different thing. Checkout for the signs of overprotective parents.
Are you the one? Let’s see what are the impacts of protective parenting.
1. You Shield Them against Life’s Situations
Characteristic: Overprotective parents always protect their kid against every circumstance of life.
- Children continually living under their parent’s protection can never learn to handle life’s challenges. They’re so used to such caring that they constantly need their parents assistance and help.
- Parents fail to understand that they’re not going to be with their kids forever.
- Let your kids handle a few things on their own. They need to know how they can tackle life’s issues.
2. You Always Paint the World Bright
Characteristic: Overprotective parents always try to show the positive aspects of the world. They rush to console and soothe the bitter experiences of the child.
- Do you always comfort and compensate the child whenever he faces a bitter experience?
- Do you regularly try to show the brighter sides of everything and try to hide the harsh realities?
- Well, If you do, you are raising a vulnerable child that may fail to handle the bitter realities of life.
- Your intention here is to protect your child and project the brighter and positive life aspects, but the real world is different.
- Like every one of us he will also face the harsh realities one day and your parenting style may fail him in those situations.
3. You Babysit Them at Every Stage
Characteristic: Babysitting a child at every stage of his life is a common protective parenting sign.
- These parents spoon feed their children for everything. Parents help them finish their study projects, they arrange kid’s clothes in the closet, they choose their hobby classes.
- Allow your kids to do a few age-appropriate chores by themselves. Make them learn the importance of sharing responsibilities.
- Kids of overprotective parents lack the streetsmart skills to handle life’s issues. The over pampering makes them dependent.
4. You Create Unnecessary “safe zones”
Characteristics: Protective parents create too many safe zones to safeguard their kids even in routine life.
- Your kid wants to jump a few steps and you stop him by explaining that he may get hurt, he wants to run to chase a bird and you stop him by yelling that he might fall. He wants to explore new apps and you do not allow in a fear of online threats.
- This is how even in everyday life these parents create too many safe zones to protect their kids. Let him run, jump and have his experiences. Use parental control tools so he can use a few apps safely.
- Constantly restricting kids and instructing them to follow your safe zones will make your kids hesitant. Such kids suffer from low confidence.
5. You Instruct With Whom He Should Be Friends With
Characteristic: You choose your kid’s friends and on what grounds his friendship should form.
- Knowing your child’s friends and choosing them are two different things. And protective parents choose their kid’s friends and even influence the kid’s decision on what grounds he should be friends with someone.
- Because someone is good at math, you should be his friends. Because his friend is not obedient you force him to cut ties.
- Such behavior of parents irritates the child and he feels he is not good enough to handle his own friendships.
6. You Take Care of All His Difficulties
Characteristic: Protective parents always rush to solve their kid’s problems.
- Helping kids is every parent’s job but solving all their issues may make them weak.
- If you always rush to solve your kid’s problems you are making him cripple to face life challenges.
- You will not be always there for him in his life. Let him learn to handle his problems by himself.
Your parenting style and traits will decide what kind of child you may raise. As adults, we all behave according to our early age childhood experiences. What happens when a child experiences constant pressure, too much of pampering and the consistent need for validation?
Unfortunately, such kids are prone to depression and may fail to see the world realistically. Let lose your protective parenting, give your child a space and he will explore the world in his ways